Dealing with teasing
My son was going to a babysitter and travelling by bus to get there. We recently changed after school arrangements and today he tells me that he's glad he won't be on that bus because some of the kids were teasing him every day. It seems that it is always the same children that are giving him a hard time. (a couple of them members of the same family)This is the first I've heard of this and of course I find it upsetting. My son wouldn't tell me the details and said it doesn't matter he just ignored them and now he won't have to deal with it any more.
I know that it is pointless to speak to the children's parent as she is well known as having the attitude that her children can do no wrong.
How should I handle this or should I leave it in the past.
Posted by:
plspence
Reply from:
Kat Eden
Date: Feb 12, 2008 at 12:34 pm
Reply from:
plspence Date: Feb 12, 2008 at 12:45 pm
My son is 9.
Thank you for your advice, I will talk to him tonight when I pick him up. You're right I am proud of him and I should tell him.
Reply from:
Michael Bartone
Date: Feb 12, 2008 at 1:58 pm
So glad to see you are supporting him! I remember being picked on and I just didn't want to tell anyone, and I never did. It's tough but I always knew that things would get better and they did. Children are ruthless, as are many adults, but if your son keeps in mind that not everyone is like them. Best to you and tell your son to keep his head up!
Reply from:
SarahRubar Date: Feb 12, 2008 at 1:07 pm
I agree with you. Speaking with the parents doesn't always work. It's an isolated time and the kids, even if spoken to by the parent, won't stop. You need to focus on the child/victim. I wonder if it might not be a good idea for her to take a ride on the bus with the boy and confront the bullies, telling them to leave the boy alone or else she'll talk to their mother..or even do something so they're not able to ride that bus anymore. They're being disruptive to the passengers,so it is feasable that this could happen.
It's too bad there isn't some other bus he could take. I do hope that eventually the bullies just get bored and leave him alone. :(
Sarah
Reply from:
NY MOM Date: Feb 12, 2008 at 5:37 pm
Hi, please do not ride on the bus, that is only going to create more teasing from the bullies, they 'll say "there comes the baby that need his mommy" when you are not there. Besides Sarah ( I know you meant well) think about it, kids are not going to act the same if there is a grown up. I read the article (Google it, if you wish) Helicopter mom, it said that it is good to let kids learn to deal with difficult situation, especially as they get older. However talking with him about it like Kat Eden said might be great, Boys some how have a harder time than girls expressing their feeling. Best wishes
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