Troubled about my nephew
My nephew is 10 year old his year and over the years i have experienced troubles with him and the way he acts twards my children who are 6 and 3.He is often demanding for them to do things he wants and his way often using them like play toys rather than friends or companions. I have looked up asperger syndome and austism as some of his behaviors i have noticed reminds me of those types of conditions.
One halloween after my childen and my nefew were done trick or treating, they got on the floor to check out the candy they had received. Draven my nephew had his candy all sorted out by type and color and my wife accidentaly kicked some of them while walking by them and messed up what he had sorted. I have never seen a child get so upset over something so small, he burst into tears and pouted for a good 20 minutes saying how his night was ruined. He also has a very hard time looking at you as your talking to him or as he is talking to you. Most of the time his eyes look off to the side as if hes trying to look at something to the right of you. Another disturbing habbit he has is giggling or barking like a dog after he finishes saying something to you.
On numerous accounts i have had to get after him for beeing mean to my children or other childen at birthday partys or family events. He has been adopted by my parents as my sister did not want him. To make a special note my mother is not entirely all together mentaly so she lives in her own world .She believes everything he does is cute no matter what anyone tells her about him. Sometimes she gets upset and leaves family events because no one understands draven.
I was worried about him hurting my children as he is big for his age weight wise and has hit or flung my kids around on nurmerous occasions.He has gotten better but still acts like a 2 year old when playing and insist on knocking down or grabbing other kids and gets really over excited. If it is possible that anyone could lend some insight on info i could give to my mother to open her eyes that he might need some help i would greatly appreciate it. Im not sure what if any problems he has , but im hopeing someone might know or lead me the right way.
Thank you,
Tony
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wyldgunz
Reply from: wayne yankus Date: May 16, 2008 at 8:25 am
Reply from: wyldgunz Date: May 16, 2008 at 10:56 am
Thank you for your insight , As far as school goes my mother homeschools him. I do know that the other families in the neighborhood where they live will not let their children play with draven and send him home if he trys to involve himself with their kids playing. As i only see him 3-4 times a month i only have a limited observation of him but other family members do feel he has a lot of issues and is hard to tolerate.
I will however talk to my mother about an evaluation, he is just a child and i would love to see him get some help to fit in, have friends, and not feel so alone between homeschool and the fact that people are not fond of his behavior.
I did not think about mentioning a few things that may be just kid things such as a constant volume level that doubles everyone else and a bossy attitude even towards my parents, often telling them to do things now or to be quiet if they are telling him he should not be doing something. My wife and myself are the only people i have seen, that he will will not talk back to.We tell him "he is a much better person to act that way" ,and sometimes even have to sit him down and talk to him, making daven look at us untill he understands what we are trying to tell him.
Again thank you for your time and insight, it's greatly appreciated as searching the web only give you information but little feedback
Reply from: mamaB Date: May 18, 2008 at 11:43 am
Don't be quick to put a lable on your Newphew. There can be a number of things wrong. you are talking about a boy who's mother has pretty much left him & I am sure he is old enough to have figured that out by now. There can be a number of learning / developmental disorders this child can be dealing with not to mention emotional
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