shyness

i have a 3 1/2 year old girl and she is very shy.  At school she is so shy that she even lower her voice that sometimes the teacher won't understand her.  during this scholastic year, i noticed that she choose her friends.  She does not play with everyone.  I even noticed thath she feels comfortable just to watch others play.  But how can i help her be more friendly?

 

Reply from: Tommy Date: Jun 18, 2008 at 6:49 pm

gattmic, I kind of know what your going through. My son would't talk at all in preschool. We thought he was just shy ,untill his preschool teacher told me she thought he had an anxiety disorder called selective mutism. I'm not saying thats what your daughter has, she"s probably just shy,but i can relate to the shynes part. We don"t ever make him talk, as this would make the problem worse. Never put pressure on her to interact with other kids,at the same time praise her when she does. Keep exposing her to those social situations, invite kids over for a play date that she is comfortable with. If the problem gets worse as she gets older ,don't let it go talk to a psycologist to make sure it's not more than shyness. The sooner she gets help the easier it will be to help her.

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Reply from: Shelltotell Date: Jul 7, 2008 at 3:49 pm

My daughter is also "shy".  Especially upon first meeting.  But I have noticed since completing preschool, she has begun to come out of her shell more.  She still is shy but I am beginning to appreciate the fact that she is shy and more cautious than other children.  I believe it shows alot of wisdom to discern a situation first and then proceed.  I think it is great your daughter chose her friends,  that is what we want for our kids, to be able to dissern the good and bad, and it looks like she is beginning to do that.  Remember we don't want our children to be "nice" for the sake of being nice, we want them to make good choices and that includes the friends we keep. =)

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