DATING/SEX,ETC

You bring up a lot of different concerns in your posting so I am not sure what your main focus is-dating, your daughter, sexuality, autism, trust?  These are tough topics to address here without writing a book!  How old is your daughter?  As a parent, your first priority should be your daughter's needs, so it is great that you are concerned about this.  With all of the concerns that you bring up, I might suggest that you find some support in your local area to help you sort through all of these issues.  Do you have a trusted friend or family member that can help you?  Are you receiving services for her through the school system?  You may even want to look into some counseling to help you work through your questions.  I wish you the best, it sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now which can be very stressful.  Take care of yourself, so you can take care of your daughter!
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thanks i am 42 years old    have adhd,divorced when my daughter was 2.5 due to the domestic voilence, my dad passed away when i was 14 of cancer, my  brother died of cancer in 1990 and my step dad died of cancer 5 years , i belong to pac here in san antonio texas.,. my daughter is 10 yeards old and diagnosed at age 6 og autism, add, mr ,. so yes have have a very full plate to say the least,. the reason i asked about dating was over 2 years ago when i was with the autism society i asked the same ????????? and a man spoke up and just   said time management that was the last straw for me and save  not been back to the society since then, couseling for me when i was living in waco only worked for a brief time, ta;lking about it just brought back to many memories,. my ex moved back here in sanantonio last year which made things worse all of a sudden wants to be part of alyssas life  no way to confusing, no trust  voilent temper,.mm

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It sounds like you have had a lot of heartbreaking issues related to relationships throughout your life.  With all of these issues that have occured you may want to reach out again and get some counseling or support to help your sort out all your feelings.  
If you are not ready to do that, you may want to consider sorting out your feelings on paper.  People often journal numerous topics to help them focus on where they have been and what they can do to move forward.  You could even try having a notebook with sections for different themes:  
1.  Blessings list (things you are thankful for)
2.  Accomplishments/positive characteristics about yourself/what makes you special
3.  Goals for yourself (short-term & long term)--how will you get there?
4.  Goals for your daughter (short-term & long term)---how will you help her get there?
5.  Identify  support people & coping skills--things you can do & people you can talk to when you feel overwelmed
6.  Dealing with past hurts---write letters that you never actually send to others about how they made you feel (this could include those who died or your ex-husband)
7.  What you can do nice for others---volunteer, send a note, compliment or praise someone, apologize.
8. Problems in your life and some solutions to those problems
Journaling is an idea that you might want to consider.  Sometimes there are so many things going through your head that it is hard to focus.  By putting them all on paper it might clarify where you are emotionally and where you want to go!
Best wishes!

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thanks thats a great idea,.mm

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