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Although lying, stealing, and cheating are all inappropriate behaviors, they are also common, especially at an early age, as children try to test their limits but are still learning right from wrong. As a parent, it is important that you do not overreact, but that you do let your child know that each of these behaviors is unacceptable and that you yourself understand what is causing your child to lie, steal, or cheat. The good news is, they usually do grow out of it, but they need your guidance and you need to know when to be concerned and what to do about it.
Know how to handle it. Often, when parents hear that their child has done something wrong, they try to ask open-ended, vague questions to get their child to confess. It is actually better to tell your child what you heard and ask her what her version is. If she is under the age of 6, she will probably confess and not lie about it. If she is over the age of 6, your child might try to lie to cover up her bad deed, in which case you should punish her for the lie and the bad behavior. However, in either case you should also get to the bottom of why your child did what she did.
Lying. Children often lie because they know the truth will disappoint their parents, like having gotten a bad grade on a test. In this situation, it is important that you let your child know that what matters more is the effort she put into it and not the end result. If you know she tried her best, then you should praise her for her effort but also explore why she did not do well. If you know that she has not put in the effort, you should talk about working harder the next time. An older child might also lie about her activities. Skipping school can be very common among teens. You should be firm about house rules with your teen and explain that these rules are in place for her own good. You should also make sure you are aware of what she is doing and whom she is doing it with.