Parenting Fails: 7 Ways to Make the Holidays Totally Miserable (page 2)

Deck the halls with crying children! Hey, when you have little kids, a ton of merrymaking can make for a ton of a meltdowns—for parents and kids alike. And overstressed, fatigued, overworked mamas usually make the situation worse when they commit classic parenting fails that turn "Deck the Halls" into a chorus of "Go to your room!" instead. By identifying where you're going wrong, you can quickly nip those parenting mistakes in the bud to actually, you know, enjoy the holidays with your family. Pass the egg nog!

Taking on Too Much

So you want to bring treats to your preschool class while sewing your own stockings and shopping for your entire family, but in the end, something's gotta give. By taking on way too much come holiday season, you're stuck with a to-do list that leaves little time for you to kick back and enjoy the season. Genius coping tool? Delegate some of your responsibilities to your little one. Child and adolescent child psychologist Fran Walfish agrees. "Nothing feels more important than being needed as part of the team," she notes. "Let her set the table or allow him to bring the dirty dishes to the kitchen. Find ways to engage your kids teaching responsibility and building their self-esteem with the pride of accomplishment." As an added bonus, you'll lighten your load too.

Overgifting

Finding the perfect gift gives you a department store rush, so it's understandable that you love grabbing gifts for your adorable kids. But less awesome? The chaos that ensues. From keeping track of the gifts your kids get to wrapping them all and then making peace with your bank account later, going overboard in the gift department can make your holidays way too hectic. Instead, set a goal for each child ahead of time and stick to that number. Then, learn to be strong in the face of a good sale. Does your child really need another set of blocks?

Overpacking Your Schedule

If your calendar is about as decorated as a Christmas tree, you might have an issue with over scheduling yourself. Constantly shuffling tired, cranky kids from party to party and constantly asking that they be on their best behavior is practically a recipe for a total tantrum. Instead of saying "yes" to everything, consider picking a few things that really matter and declining the rest. Then, make sure you plan some down time for your little ones. If they had to be on their best behavior at Grandma's, take 'em to the indoor playground to help release some of those pent-up wiggles.

Skipping Traditions

Sure, missing out on the advent calendar one year might not seem like a huge deal to you, but when you kids look forward to it for 11 months of the year, it could be devastating. Think carefully before you cut a long-held tradition from the to-do list. Instead of doing away with them altogether to save on stress, consider a pared-down version. No, you don't have time to make a Christmas cookie advent calendar, but your kids might be just as happy with the cheap chocolate ones from the drugstore instead.