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How do I get my 3 year old son to stop hurting me and his sister?

I have a spirited boy.  He's turning 4 in 3 months.  He's a wonderful child...a great sense of humor...laughs all the time...and he's so sweet when he's in a good mood.  

My son was a really difficult 2 year old - he used to constantly hurt other children and cause serious injuries.  I learned to focus on his good behaviour and give him lots of praise. He's doing so much better now and the daycare and Junior Kindergarten tell me he is a sweet well behaved boy!!!

He no longer bites, but he still has major emotional meltdowns with me, pulls his sister's hair, pinches and hits (when he's tired).  My son was born with a very aggressive and sensitive temperament.  He is really challenging.  I cannot get him to stay in a time out.  I just can't.  I've tried every method.  I end up putting him in his room and hold the door shut while he screams and throws things around for 15 minutes.  When he is calm, I go in and make him help me clean up.  We talk about what he did and about other ways of getting his "angries out".

In the morning he often kicks me when I am changing his clothes. He kicks me so hard, it hurts and I give him a smack on the bum after telling him 2 or 3 times to stop kicking me.  It's not a hard smack, but it is firm and it gets his attention and he will usually stop and it's not every morning. I wake him up slowly with music and hug him for 10 minutes before getting him ready. I'm in a hurry to get him to school and get myself to work.  

What can I do?
In Topics: My child's growth and development
> 60 days ago



Feb 11, 2014
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