My 5yo son is in a private Kindy because he needs the academic challenge. He started K reading at 3rd grade level, math at 1st. The school dist would not let him in because he was 18 days shy of the stupid age requirement. In preK he had some behavioral challenges which I believe were due to boredom & now those are gone because he is stimulated. However there is still the challenge of him bouncing off walls & being silly during circle time & not listening when told to do something. I also found out this week he is lying to me when he says he has a good day, the next day I can manage to pull out of him that he did get removed from circle for not listening. At home he can be told to remove his boots before going in the kitchen but 2 seconds later I find he has walked through the kitchen in his muddy boots! He heard me so it is not that! Today before his karate class I told him to behave & listen to direction, not be silly or we would not go visit Santa at the amusement park. Sure enough he is screwing around in class & even his Sensai tells him to knock it off. We did not go see Santa. Other times he has lost things from toys, tv, activities, even Elf on the Shelf left b/c he was sick of my son constantly being bad! I am sick of his behaviors ruining things for the rest of us (not getting to go see Santa or run to the store because he is in timeout). We have used spanks, losing items, etc, NOTHING gets to him! Tried Intuniv & it did nothing. Apt in 2 days with psych for testing
It sounds like you are really struggling right now. It is good that you have been able to get into counseling for you and your son. Getting to a healthy place yourself, is the first step towards sorting everything out. In the meantime can you ask for help from friends and family members? Reach out and let your loved ones know that you and your son are struggling right now. Even if they could care for your son a few hours and you could get a break every once and a while that would help tremendously. If you need further help, reach out, continue talking to your doctor, counselor, your friends and family; talk to a hotline.
- Sara, Counselor