When children have a consistent and clear sense that they want to be the opposite sex it is called Gender Identity Disorder.
Children with GID sometimes wish that they were the opposite sex, believe that when they grow up they will become the opposite sex and tend to prefer stereotypical clothing and games of the opposite sex. They also tend to enjoy playing only with the opposite sex. This is something that persists, rather than being a short-lived 'phase'. It also should not be confused with being homosexual because it is different and unrelated.
If you believe that this may describe your child, I strongly suggest you begin by speaking to your child's pediatrician and also to a doctor or psychologist who specializes in GID. It is VERY important to find the right specialist, do a lot of research and make sure you get support for your child and family. If your pediatrician doesn't seem to know about it, is dismissive or tells you it is a phase, immediately seek other help. Having the right support system in place to help you understand what you and your child are experiencing and might experience in the future, is very, very important.
A real GID is not necessarily something you can 'cure' or 'fix', but you will need to understand the treatment options as you do further research. Of course, before any of this, you need to be sure what you are observing is in fact a GID, which is why you need to seek out good specialists.
Good Wishes and Great Parenting,
Dr Susan Bartell
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