My 7 year old won't go to bed without me. How do I break this cycle?
When my daughter was a baby every time she would cry her father would put her in the bed with us. I got angry telling him this would create a bad habit later that would be hard to break. Between ages three and five she slept by herself for the most part, but since her father has left and my mother has passed away I can't get her to go to bed without me. I work nights until 9:30 p.m. I get home around 10:00, this is affecting school and my nerves. How do I help her and myself?
Your child is grieving and needs to know you are there with her. The loss of a grandparent is tough, but not having her father in the home adds to her grief. Children handle grief differently than adults. I recommend counseling for your daughter to build her confidence and help her to understand her feelings are okay.
Does her father visit her and have any contact with her? Encourage him to be involved with his daughter. That may minimize her sadness.