belledujour asks:

i am an abused mother-in-law - my daughter-in-law blatantly lies - my son who i am very close to is stressed - she wants to destroy our family - help

In Topics: Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago



Boys Town National Hotline
Jun 9, 2011
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What the Expert Says:

We are sorry to hear about the instability you are facing in your current family situation.  Please know that no matter what your daughter-in-law does that as long as you and your son are dedicated to maintaining a relationship, then there is nothing she can do to destroy that.  If you and your son and the rest of your family remain strong in trust, keep your lines of communication open, and are honest with each other, then you can ward off any lies or attacks that come from her.  

Your son is in an especially vulnerable position in this situation (as will their children if they have any), so it will take a large toll on him if the family and her need to simply not be around each other, but it can be done.  If things continue to be toxic with the relationship between the rest of the family and her, then you may need to simply arrange things around her to keep the family bond strong.  

No one person can destroy a family without their permission.  Talk with the rest of your family about how to best cope with what is occurring.  If you have a strong, united front that can assist in coping with the daughter in law.  

Good luck, there are no quick easy fixes to problems like these, but patience and deep breathing can make it easier.  

Counselor, Dominic

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