Is this anti social, anti motivated behavior normal in a 12 year old girl?
This might be a long one, but im trying to be detailed. my 12 year old step daughter no longer wants to come see us. When i met her at age 5 she was a little spoiled and we developed very set rules about respect, chores etc in our house. I Noticed then that she has no opinion about anything even a bag of chips she would wait for you to choose. this never changed. Her mother has done everything for her, she even informed her of what she would be when she grows up and prevented her from attending any social activities as a kid. we have bent over backwards trying to work against this, giving her literally 100s of activities that i painstakingly sat and tried to teach. Nothing caught on. At moms she stares at a TV all day until about a year ago she started reading non stop. when i found out she was reading gore way above her age level i limited it at our house. Her mother thinks nothing of it so at her house she sits in her room, every day going between multiple books that she is reading, and switches sometimes to TV for hours into early AM. she has no friends....0, thinks the sun is bad for her, has pimples all over her face from simple NOT washing it and does not take showers for days. All at moms. She decided that she wont come here anymore. Called her mom to pick her up and that was it. We have 50% custody but mom wont enforce. Some advise that we should let it be but im scared. I believe that she is living in this book world and is becoming darker and darker. Advise???