Lebanon asks:

How can I assist my son in overcoming his shyness and developing his motor skills?

My son is very smart but very shy when it comes to talking even to people and classmates that he has known for a very long time. He is in the band and his director said he needs assistance with motor skills. He is a teenager, what can I do to assist him in these areas?
In Topics: Friendships and peer relationships
> 60 days ago



Boys Town National Hotline
Jun 10, 2008
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What the Expert Says:

Almost all children experience shyness or social anxiety to some degree.  Most shy kids share some key features, including self consciousness, performance anxiety, and a fear of being evaluated negatively.  You may notice that your son needs time to warm-up before participating in new or unfamiliar situations.  As a parent you want to make sure that you are providing support and encouragement when you see that your son is struggling in these situations.
 Here are a few suggestions:
*Encourage your son to talk with you when he is feeling anxious or stressed.  It might be helpful if you are able to share times or stories when you felt shy or anxious.
*Help him to set daily goals. For example; today I€™ll say hi to at least one person in the hall.
*Help him to do something that he normally wouldn€™t do.  Invite someone over to your house.  Volunteer his time working with the elderly or younger kids.
It is also important to remember that some kids are just naturally more introverted than others and that is o.k. too.  It€™s great that he is a member of the band that certainly presents opportunities to interact with peers in a positive setting.  
Hopefully some of these ideas will be helpful to you and your son, and you can begin to feel better about how he interacts with others!

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natalie_17 writes:
You could tell him that if he doesn't want his friends to know that he needs help, he could meet one on one with his teacher.
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