mm.1972 asks:

We are a bilingual family moving to the United States and the children will be in american schools for the first time. What can I do to prepare my 12 year old?

We are a bilingual family moving to the United States and the children will be in american schools for the first time. I am concerned that my 12 year may become a victim of bullying because of his sensitive nature and difficulties in english. What can I do to help prepare him and make this a positive experience?
In Topics: Working with my child's teacher(s), Worldwide education issues, Friendships and peer relationships
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Hand in Hand
Apr 21, 2009
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What the Expert Says:

A move to another country is an exciting adventure for your whole family. Welcome! I hope you all enjoy your new home.

But even the best move can still be stressful. I've attached a link below to an article from the Hand in Hand website titled "Ease the Transition of Moving to a New Home." The article talks about ways to ease both your own stress, and ways to help the kids adjust to their new environment that remind them that no matter where you live, you are still a family and you are still together caring for and about one another.

You also might enjoy the second article which talks about building resilience, something that will help your son as he develops his new relationships with his classmates. Children build resilience when someone in their life dedicates time to listen to their emotional struggles all the way through, without giving advice, trying to be logical, or telling the child they 'should' feel another way.

Emotions are like a storm passing through---they may be loud and wet, but with a caring companion to share them, the energy of the emotional storm quickly dissipates. With regular chances to be heard, respected, and loved through their emotional storms, children come to depend on themselves and their ability to get through whatever challenges they have in life.

So, as your family adjusts to your new home, making extra time to be with your son to listen to him, or to spend time doing something of his choice together with him, you can increase his capacity to solve any problems he might encounter fitting into his new school environment.

He's very lucky to have a caring parent thinking about him and anticipating what he might need to make the upcoming transition well.

We wish you all the best with your move,


Julianne Idleman
Hand in Hand Program Director
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dgraab , Parent writes:
Congratulations on your move to the United States! It's great that you're planning ahead and thinking of ways to ease the transition for your children.

Here are some resources you might review...

When Families Move: Helping Children Adjust

Bullying Special Edition

SchoolFinder (for information on schools you're considering)

Preteen Years (9-13)

The Parent's Guide to Middle School

All the best to you and your family as you settle into your new home and school(s).
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