My boyfriends 14yr old daughter is sneaking around with boys, should I tell him?
I also have teenage girls so when his daughter comes to visit she confides with my girls which in turn they tell me everything. She talks very sexual and now has a boyfriend that she " loves more than life" my boyfriend and her mother have a rocky relationship when it comes to custody. He is supposed to get her every other weekend but often times there is one excuse or another as to why she can't see him on his weekend. I found out many secrets about what goes on with her, like giving her mothers boyfriends son oral sex before. I feel trapped because I don't know how to tell her father, also I think he may even feel powerless when it comes to disciplining her. Her mother acts as if the child's father is a culprit but in fact the child is very sneaky as the mom knows nothing about what's going on right in front of her face. I believe the mother is harboring bad feelings toward her father therefore making the father/ daughter relationship terrible. What should I do?
Definitely tell him, this is just not right. He is indeed responsible for his daughters relationship. Of couese you are not in the position to talk to the mom/daughter about this. First tell the Dad he needs to take responsibility. He should first confront his daughter and take action in discipline of her behavior. Also, he should confront the mom. The mom obviously doesn't care, and needs to. He should tell her she isn't being responsible. He(NOT YOU!) should talk to the mom about the daughters actions and discuss a discipline plan. Remember, as of now, it's not your job to take this matter into hand, but it's definitely your job to bring this up to your boyfriend.
Also, itwould be a good idea to create a relationship with the mom.