How do we help boyfriends daughter understand that daddy can love me and her?
boyfriends daughter(6 yr) is jealous when we kiss,especially on the lips. She said she thinks daddy loves girlfriend more than her,She was very hurt and cried re this,She says,"No kissing on the lips!" How do we help her ?we've been dating 1 year and are wanting to move into marriage in about 1 more year.
Make sure her father has tried to talk openly with her about what she's feeling. He really needs to sit down and explain that there's no way she'll ever be replaced. The role you're taking on in the family is something completely different from her role. He also needs to be open to listening to her and answering any questions she has.
We know you're not stepmom just yet, but that seems to be the course you're on. This website might have some really good tips for you; plus, they have a directory of support groups. See if there's one in your area.
Lastly, you could always try family counseling or mediation. Maybe just a few sessions is all you'd need.
Boys Town National Hotline