mom71 asks:

How can I help my child who is being bullied if the principal or counselor tell them to ignore it? and she doesn't know who is starting the rumors?

In Topics: Bullying and teasing
> 60 days ago



Boys Town National Hotline
Jun 29, 2012
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What the Expert Says:

We are sorry to hear that your child is going through this.  We are glad you have reported the problems to the school and we hope you can continue to report any additional incidents so that they can stay informed. Bullying is a problem not easily solved and sometimes it may take multiple attempts to improve the problem.  Also know that it can ebb and flow and try not to get frustrated if results are not immediate when trying something new.  Stay strong!

One thing that is very important when your child is experiencing bullying is to try and provide them with places and groups of people where they feel like they belong.  This may mean getting them in a church group, club sports team, or with a volunteer organization.  Try to get your child with a group of kids that will accept her for who she is.  Sometimes instead of trying to eliminate the bad times, it is easier to simply increase the good times your child experiences, which makes the bad times more managable.  

Also work with your child on things they can do to help themselves out.  One way they can do this is by partnering them up or grouping them up with people at their school who can be there for them when the bullying happens.  Bystanders are people who see bullying that are not the bully or the target and they have a lot of power to help out the people who are targetted.  See if you can brainstorm with your daugther a couple of people who she could get together with and maybe ask them for help.  

Please take care and remember that you can call the Boys Town National Hotline 24 hours a day at the number below, free of charge to discuss any parenting issue.  We are here to help, you are not alone!

Counselor, NZ

Boys Town National Hotline-A Resource for Parents and Teens

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Vanessa04 writes:
Tell someone who would really help you and the bulling needs to stop!
> 60 days ago

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