This is such a difficult challenge for many families who have a child with special needs of any kind. We parents desperately need respite and help and it's hard to find, especially on a limited budget.
Depending on where you live (small town? big city?), you might be able to find community services and support.
It will take some effort and digging around on your part, but here are some places to start with to find the help you need:
- Your medical team
- Special education teachers in your school district
- The obvious: friends, family, neighbors
- Do a google for "respite special needs" for your town/ state
- www.BraveKids.org lists many great resources by city
Depending on the severity of your child's condition, you might consider trading child care time with another family. Also, some communities have babysitting coops that might be helpful. The area I live in has a very strong network called www.kindering.org that serves as a resource center for local services.
There is a list of daycare providers in each state who will care for special needs children. Also, he may be eligible for respite care (in home) with local organizations that help families with children with special needs. Your local school district should have a family liasion who can help you with both of these. Furthermore, you may wish to check with local colleges as future special education teachers may be available for childcare and may also know some good behavioral and educational strategies to help your son. I have inserted a resource website that may help as well. Good luck