looby
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How to help my 13 year old niece deal with the death of her mother?
Hi,
I hope someone could help us, My 13 yrs old niece mother pass away on 3 January 2010 with cancer. My niece at the moment staying with me and my family.
We not sure what to do, because she was living about 40 miles away from us and we are worrying about her school etc. She refusing go back home, because there is only mum boyfriend and all mum staff ( I fully understand her, I don't like it go there at the moment), and she even refusing go to her dad's. There are very bad together (all the time argue) and her granddad from dad site (sexual abused her in past).
Please can anyone tell us if is anything we can do? We don't want she go live with her dad, but he got parents responsibility. It is there anything we can do to stop him to get her? We would love to keep her.
Many thanks for any responds.
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Children and stress, Communicating with my child (The tough talks), Blended families
I hope someone could help us, My 13 yrs old niece mother pass away on 3 January 2010 with cancer. My niece at the moment staying with me and my family.
We not sure what to do, because she was living about 40 miles away from us and we are worrying about her school etc. She refusing go back home, because there is only mum boyfriend and all mum staff ( I fully understand her, I don't like it go there at the moment), and she even refusing go to her dad's. There are very bad together (all the time argue) and her granddad from dad site (sexual abused her in past).
Please can anyone tell us if is anything we can do? We don't want she go live with her dad, but he got parents responsibility. It is there anything we can do to stop him to get her? We would love to keep her.
Many thanks for any responds.
> 60 days ago
Additional Answers (2)
Hello Looby,
I'm very sorry to hear of your family's situation. Thank you for turning to JustAsk for support during this difficult time.
Adding to the excellent guidance you received from Shirley Cress Dudley, here are some other informational resources you may also find helpful...
Child Grief and Bereavement
http://www.education.com/topic/child-grief-bereavement/
Communicating with Teens
http://www.education.com/topic/communicate-teens/
Child Abuse Issues
http://www.education.com/topic/child-abuse-issues/
These resources, though, are not a substitute for having your niece talk to a licensed health professional (such as a child psychologist, counselor or doctor) in person, to discuss and heal from her grief and previous abuse. Please do encourage and enable her to receive that level of support.
I'm very sorry to hear of your family's situation. Thank you for turning to JustAsk for support during this difficult time.
Adding to the excellent guidance you received from Shirley Cress Dudley, here are some other informational resources you may also find helpful...
Child Grief and Bereavement
http://www.education.com/topic/child-grief-bereavement/
Communicating with Teens
http://www.education.com/topic/communicate-teens/
Child Abuse Issues
http://www.education.com/topic/child-abuse-issues/
These resources, though, are not a substitute for having your niece talk to a licensed health professional (such as a child psychologist, counselor or doctor) in person, to discuss and heal from her grief and previous abuse. Please do encourage and enable her to receive that level of support.
> 60 days ago
weLL , for me , i already encountered that situATion , and what i've just did was having bonding with my niece because i know she would really miss her mom, so for him to enjoy , we usually go to mall and have some fun . and the best thing is i let her feel that losing her mother wo'nt ruin her life because life is really an important which we borrowed from our savior jesus christ.Let her pray always and let her do things that can make her enjoy . and for his grandpa's issue, let him be prissoned .tell the police and let your niece tell everything about it .
good luck !
good luck !
> 60 days ago
