We are sorry to hear that your daughter is being bullied. It is not easy as a parent to see our children in emotional or physical pain. If your child is being bullied at school, the school administrators need to be made aware of what is going on so they can put a stop to it. Talk to your daughter's teacher first. If the teacher is not willing to help, then go to the principal or school counselor for more support.
You don't mention your child's age or grade, but many schools have implemented anti-bullying and anti-put down programs at the elementary and middle school level. If there are high expectations at school the students will thrive. If a school does nothing to remedy bullying and put downs, the children will keep on doing these behaviors because they think they can get away with it. The same goes for parental expectations in the home.
If the bullying is happening away from school and the parents continue to not address it with their child, then you need to arm your child with as much self-assurance and confidence as possible. Role play with your daughter as to how to respond next time she is approached by the bully. Teach her to look him or her in the eye and tell them to leave her alone and walk away. Encourage her to spend time with positive friends and to participate in activities she enjoys. If by chance the bullying continues, it becomes physical and your daughter is harmed, and the parents are not helping, you may have to call the police.
Please consider calling our Hotline to speak in more detail with a counselor about this situation. You can also reach us through our parenting website: www.parenting.org Your daughter may also like our website for teens: www.yourlifeyourvoice.org and she can also e-mail or call a counselor on our Hotline for more support.
You are doing a good thing by reaching out for answers. Take care and best wishes to you and your daughter!
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