My daughter frequently yells loudly & criticizes her 4.5yo son. He frequently is happily defiant & back talks & occ is angry w/name-calling to adults.
His parents are separated, he spends 2 days on & 2 days off & every other weekend between maternal grandparents (w/whom mom lives) & paternal gr mother, & w/father on weekends opposite maternal grandparents. Mom has untreated bipolar & dad has PTSD, anxiety. Child is very sweet & loving, but has been developing behavioral issues @ home & now in preschool as well. This living arrangement has been in effect 1.5 years. We, maternal grandparents don't know what to do.
We're sorry to hear what's going on with your grandson. The best option would be to talk to your daughter about her behavior and see if she'd be willing to see a professional. If not, it's important that you and his other relatives are extra positive and supportive to him.
Some of your grandson's misbehavior might be age-appropriate. Kids are known to call adults names if they're mad, but you have to make sure to correct him and give him a negative consequence. If you feel his misbehavior is directly linked to his mother, it's going to be tricky. You'll have to keep correcting him, but still try to explain to his mother (during a neutral time when she's not irritable) how important it is that she get treatment for her bipolar disorder.
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