I am sorry to hear about your daughter's difficulties, and your frustration with not finding any definitive answers. You have not given up!

Continue your search for the counselor who will show understanding and empathy for your daughter. She needs to learn more appropriate ways to get attention and express her feelings.She seems to be living up to others' expectations as a "troublemaker". She may benefit from group counseling where social skills are the focus. She will understand that her negative reactions to others makes her life more difficult and decide to change her behaviors.

Well, certainly those qualities you listed are not favorable ones. However, it is consistent with an insecurity of some kind. One area I would try to examine is this one. Why is she feeling this way? Is it the lack if social skills or is it that she has had bad social experiences. This is always a tough area to look at where "socialism" is concerned. Sometimes we think it is good for our children, when in reality, it can do as much harm than good. I would definately start off accepting your child for who she is even if she is indifferent to you. Next, find out what things shes does like ( music, activities, etc.) then try to help her to find friends that she has similar interests in. If she has "no issues" then this is something to praise! You may just have the usual teenage emotional rollar coaster ride that 70% or more parents experience. Have an open connection with her, even if she seems to be mean or distant, she really needs you at this point in her life. Good luck :)