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How can I deal with pressure from parents/school/outside activities?

My parents are more lenient than typical "Asian" parents, but I'm still expected to stay in all accelerated classes and maintain a B average (9th grade). But I am also pursuing a piano career which my parents are still indecisive about. My ultimate goal is to follow this schedule: 3:30pm violin, 4:00pm-12:00am piano, 12:00am homework. All I hear around me are either about how people are practicing 8+hrs a day or are getting straight As in school. I haven't followed this schedule yet and when I try, I always end up messing up both school and piano: I play 4-6+hrs a day inconsistently, and fairly often I'm too tired to study even with the help of coffee. I get distracted by other things, but I end up lying to my parents that I did study. I get by fairly well like this, but when I get an extremely bad grade (occasionally), they lecture me. They hardly listen (whatever I say is somehow used against me), and they blame me for not working hard enough and not having enough endurance, and I feel like a failure. I feel so angry at my parents but much more so at myself and my weakness, and it hurts me so much. I know that my time management does need some more work, but sometimes it's so hard to gather up the willpower to keep playing piano/study amidst all the stress. I could use some advice, but I don't see any other way but to try harder and endure.
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You are right setting up a good study habit will help you to reach the goals that you have set for yourself.

You have set up a pretty intense study program for yourself. You might want to look at splitting the time between piano practice and homework more evenly. Maybe you practice the piano for an hour take a break for 15-20 minutes and then start on homework.

It is important that you learn how to balance both practice and homework, but you also need to leave time in there for some fun and relaxation.

You could also spend more time on the weekends practicing the piano when you know that you won't have any homework.

We have also enclosed a couple of articles about talking with our parents and good study habits. We are hoping that you will find both of these articles helpful

http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/DiscoverIt/Articles/Pages/StudyHabits.aspx
http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/DiscoverIt/Articles/Pages/Howto.aspx

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You are right setting up a good study habit will help you to reach the goals that you have set for yourself.

You have set up a pretty intense study program for yourself. You might want to look at splitting the time between piano practice and homework more evenly. Maybe you practice the piano for an hour take a break for 15-20 minutes and then start on homework.

It is important that you learn how to balance both practice and homework, but you also need to leave time in there for some fun and relaxation.

You could also spend more time on the weekends practicing the piano when you know that you won't have any homework.

We have also enclosed a couple of articles about talking with our parents and good study habits. We are hoping that you will find both of these articles helpful

http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/DiscoverIt/Articles/Pages/StudyHabits.aspx
http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/DiscoverIt/Articles/Pages/Howto.aspx

Stay Positive
Amy, counselor
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