Mika
Mika asks:
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How can I discipline my 15 month old who is pinching and grabbing at my face?
In Topics: Discipline and behavior challenges
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Jul 3, 2009
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Thank you for contacting www.education.com with your parenting question. Once your child begins to learn that he or she can interact with the world - watch out. For most children, there is just an explosion of exploration that is just fabulous to watch but sometimes hard to control. Children begin to touch everything within reach and experiment with manipulating what they feel. You can almost hear the workings of their minds, "what will happen if I pinch this??".
 
Your role as a parent is to consistently provide your child with discipline that will help him to stay safe. It is never to early to work on setting limits with your child and implementing some type of corrective teaching. In this instance, it sounds like your baby is merely exploring the world around him rather than trying to hurt you.
 
Many parents become quite adept at squelching or scolding misbehavior and this type of discipline certainly has it's place. In this instance, however, rather than focusing on the misbehavior, would you consider teaching your child what you would like to have him do instead? For example, you could take his hand before he can grab or pinch you and then just gently stroke your cheek. This will help your child to learn what type of touch is appropriate. Child certainly mimic others. If you are touching him in a gentle, sweet manner, it is much more likely that he will do the same.
 
Remember that whenever your child is engaging in a behavior you would like him to repeat, praise, praise, praise. Reinforce any positive behavior by smiling, nodding, winking or through your words.
 
Lastly, be consistent in your response to your child's actions. Don't let him grab and pinch one time and then correct him the next. This can be confusing and will greatly slow the learning process.
 
For more information on how to deal with the behavior of a toddler, please feel free to visit the Boys Town website of www.parenting.org. On this site, you will find a wealth of information on many child rearing topics.
 
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Developmentalist
Development... writes:
Hi.  Thanks for reaching out to Education.com.  It sounds like your 15-month-old is experimenting with his or her ability to impact the world.  It's normal and healthy.  I'd like to introduce you to a wonderful non-profit partner of ours who specializes in connecting with young children:  Hand in Hand Parenting http://www.education.com/partner/articles/handinhandparenting/  Their articles helped me so much when my 15-month-old started to pinch and grab.  I also tried to teach and model for my child healthy alternatives to pinch and grab -- stuffed animals, pillows, blankets, play dough inside and grass, sand, dirt outside.  It was so much fun and I found I enjoyed all these textures and experiences myself.  I hope you enjoy the Hand in Hand articles.
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Loddie1
Loddie1 , Parent writes:
The face is an amazing feature for both toddlers and babies. A lot of babies learn and concentrate on the face. The pinching and grabbing is his way of trying to explore the face. When a baby reaches out to an object, that object usually goes in her or his mouth. The pinching is his way of trying to pull your features off to learn more. But he put them in his mouth! One thing I would try is handing him a baby book when he does this. Maybe one that has faces in it. Try talking to him about the face and point to the certain features. He can put the book in his mouth to explore and this should satisfy him if you give him the book every time. Make sure it is made of a substance he can't bite off a piece of the book. Some books are made of a plastic that is not harmful and does not tear:) Good luck!
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Loddie1
Loddie1 , Parent writes:
"But he can't put them in his mouth"... is what I meant to write.
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CreativeRachna
CreativeRac... , Child Professional, Teacher writes:
Mika,
  It must be fun yet frustrating to be dealing with these new changes with your baby.  I found this reference article from Education.com which gives disciplining milestones for children.
 
http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Disciplining_Your/
 
http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Discipline_Tool_Kit/
 
I hope this helps!
Best,
Rachna
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