thomas.agos... asks:

Driving while unliscensed

My son is hell bent on driving while he is unlicensed. He has been pleaded by his mum and I not to, his arrogance just gets worse as we are explaining to him the consequences of what will happen if he is caught. He yells, swears and literally tells us there is absolutely nothing wrong in what he is doing eg ( I'm just going down the road or I'm just going to work and back or whatever). He thinks he has been hard done by the law so he thinks he deserves to drive ( hence the arrogance). He is a good kid at heart but his attitude and arrogance get in the way. We are at a loss in what to do, we've pleaded, reasoned and argued with him but to no avail. We feel we need to do what's right in our eyes and for him without him being into deeper trouble. Are we able to get advice from police without him being penalised any further?
In Topics: Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago



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Feb 26, 2014
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What the Expert Says:

We cannot be real specific in our answer in that we do not know the age of your son or why his is unlicensed.  If it simply is due to his young age, and it is your vehicle that he is taking out, don't give him access to a vehicle.  Take all keys with you when you are out and even keep them on your person so no extra keys can be made to have access to drive away.

If he is already in trouble with the law and lost his license due to an infraction, we agree that he is setting himself up for more trouble.  The fact of the matter is driving without a license is illegal.  If he is a minor, as his parents you are still responsible for him, so reporting it would at least protect you.  If he is a young adult and is simply making the choice to drive when he should not be, as long as his safety and the safety of others is not being put at risk, the natural consequence of getting caught might be the best thing that could happen.

If you have a friend who is an officer, you might ask his advice.  However, if you talk to police, they may have a civil duty to investigate.

Laura - Crisis Counselor
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