losingit asks:

Can you please help me find a live in facility for him that treats these defiance anger violent behaviors?

We have a 10 yr. old son, who has always been hard to handle.  He is adhd, takes meds.  and is VERY smart. Extremely headstrong, enjoys making friends only with thugs and seems that his only goal is to be one too.  we do not allow him to hang with them. He does so at school. Although difficult we were always able to deal with the issues successfully.  Not anymore!  NO punishment or rewards work for but a short time.  I have mental health issues as well and at times am only hanging on by a thread.  I can not deal with his open defiance,and refusal to cooperate, disrespect and sometimes cruelty to animals and violence.  Please help!! Are there any schools for his age you could recommend, what can I do to help him and myself control ourselves?Is there a live in facility in our area that would be helpful for his issues?
In Topics: Choosing a school, Autism & Aspergers Syndrome, Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago



Feb 2, 2012
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What the Expert Says:

Hello and thank you for writing to JustAsk!

I regret that we cannot offer a list of schools. I would suggest that you ask in writing to convene a meeting with school officials to see if your child qualifies for special services. There are rules and regulations that guide the special education process and I added some links for you below.  

However, if you feel that this is an EMERGENCY situation- then you may wish to contact the family services, police or social services in your area. They will help you if you feel that your son's behavior is at risk for harming himself or someone else.

Here are links:

Special Education Laws:  http://www.WrightsLaw.com

For kids in crisis: (Education.com does not endorse anyone program or treatment, these are simply provided as information)




Best wishes-

Louise Sattler, NCSP

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