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How can I help my friend from getting bullied in a different by giving her advice, & showing she is not weak?

She was in school, & got called a very bad word; & ugly. Also the boy bullies were pretending of them likes her.
 
Question asked after reading: http://www.education.com/reference/article/hidd...
In Topics: Bullying and teasing, Friendships and peer relationships, Children and stress
> 60 days ago

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Boys Town National Hotline
Sep 5, 2012
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What the Expert Says:

You can help your friend by listening and just being a friend.  We know that sounds like a lame answer, but just having you as a friend helps her see that the bullies are wrong.  Just being there is huge.

You can also help by standing up to the bullies.  It's hard to do, especially if there's a lot of them, but both you and her could say something to them.  The thing about bullies is that they love the reaction they get, even if it's just a blush or stony silence.  Bullies are often natural leaders, but something isn't clicking right in their brains.  They want to move people and guide them, but there's a serious lack of kindness.  They fill that need to be in control by saying or doing something to someone in order to see the reaction that person gets.

Therefore, if you and/or your friend decide to confront them, stay calm and almost business-like.  Don't snap at them or cry or anything like that.  Instead, talk to them like you're a teacher or something.  Be like, "Just in case you didn't know, your behaviors are really hurting some feelings.  Maybe give it a rest."  Short, simple, calm.

If neither of you are comfortable talking to the bullies, talk to an adult and get an adult involved.  You can even ask the school to see their bully policy -- most schools have one.

Good luck!  And contact us if you need to talk about this further.

MKM, Counselor
Boys Town National Hotline
1-800-448-3000
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aniya2100
aniya2100 writes:
Tell Her To Go To The School's Council If The School Isn't Doing Anything. And To Show Her She Is Not Weak Tell Her To Show Her Child How To Deal With A Bully At School Or You Can Show Her Your Self.
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TeacherMom72
TeacherMom72 writes:
It is very important to speak with an adult about this, especially since it is happening in school. It may seem like tattling but your friend is being hurt by these attacks. It is very likely that adults don't realize what's happening, but they are your best chance of getting the bullying to stop.

Another thing is to stand up to the bullies with your friend. If you see her being teased, don't stand by and let it happen. Tell the bullies, very loudly, that they are being rude and hurting your friend. There are probably other students around that feel the same way you do about your friend and are too afraid to say anything. All it takes is for one person to step in and say something. I've seen this work in my school, where one person says something, and suddenly there are five or six others who speak out, too. Not always, but it happens. When the bully realizes that they don't have the support of the others around them, it usually stops.

Last, encourage her to speak to an adult as well. It isn't weakness to ask for help. It is strength. It means acknowledging that we can't always handle a situation all by ourselves. No one can. It shows the bullies that you refuse to be a victim.
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battle1
battle1 writes:
tell her that she can't fight back.you stand by her and you take up for her and you walk away nicely with her .always tell the closest adult to you. tell her they do that stuff because they are just jealous of her.give her a talk about how she is UNIQUE.if that dose not work always use others advice .I highly hope that people understand how words effect others.
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gurjeetmeht96
gurjeetmeht96 writes:
meditation is a good way to control your mind. most imp. is that you don,t have to worry what other says, just be cool and engage yourself in activities like yoga or any sports or any work you like to do like painting.
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