Should my husband teacher our daughter's religious education class even though she doesn't want him to?

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Denise1 asks:

My husband wants to teach my daugter's religious education class. She has many friends that attend our church and does not want him teaching her grade level. My husband and daughter often conflict and do not get along very well to begin with. She is threatening to not attend church now. I need to find a way to avoid a problem that I don't think we need to add to our list of issues to deal with. I have heard that it is not reccommended to teach at the same school or grade as your own teen, but can't find any information on this as to why. I can think of why, but need some third party information/back up of the pros and cons of doing this. Please help!

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That's a tough situation to be in. I understand the reason's for both why your husband should teach the class, and why he shouldn't. Some experts agree that it's not good for a parent to be their own child's teacher in a formal school setting. Most of the reasons include things that "could" happen. It's possible that the parent's authority could be challenged away from the home. Also, some argue that the parent will give their child "special" treatment in the classroom. In the opposite direction, some parents are extra tough on their child because they don't want people to think they are giving them special treatment. Again, these are all things that possibly could happen.

The answer to your question would depend on the reasons your daughter doesn't want your husband to teach the class. If your daughter doesn't want her dad teaching the class simply because it would be embarrassing, then I don't think that's a valid reason and he should go ahead and teach it. However, if your daughter has valid concerns and feels like it would be very emotionally difficult for her to handle having her father as a teacher, I think your husband should reconsider.

Try to get a direct answer from your daughter as to why she's opposed to her father as her teacher, and ask your husband to consider the possible negative outcomes for your daughter. If the positives outweigh the negatives, you may have your answer.

Good Luck!
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greengiant3... writes:

Hmmm....It seems that your daughter is facing peer pressure about her father teaching her religion class. It is not their fault, though. Trust me. You are not alone. In the meantime, I discovered a website that could be beneficial to both your husband and your daughter. It is called nogginpower2.ccom. This website provides alot of useful information that would help you and your husband understand your daughter's needs and concerns. The packets are only $5.00 each. Yet, they help you tremendously with what you need to know about the conflict that arises in your husband/daughter. Check it out when you can. I hope this helps.

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