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The other parent and I went to the principal and explained the situation only to get the response "We will take care of it, this has been an ongoing situation." My question is if this has been an ongoing situation, why hasn't it been taken care of already? After talking with my son more about the situation tonight and the other parent talking to her children about it, we found out that this is an everyday occurrence not just with my son being bullied, but several of their classmates being bullied by the same child (including the other parent's child that is in the same class). We are absolutely frustrated because my son and the other parent's son are both very good children and neither of them have done anything back to the bully even when they were getting physically harmed. Any ideas on the next steps we can take to prevent our children and the other children from being victimized by this child? Also, the other parent's children both told her that when they tell on this child that they get in trouble for tattle telling which upsets me even more. Both the other parent and I have told our children to tell the bully to "stop" and to go straight to the teacher, but if nothing is being done about it, what can we do as parents? I was terrified in the first place about my son going to school because he is autistic and I was worried about him being bullied for that but I have been finding out that his autism isn't even affecting his schooling. Ugh! Sorry this is so long, but I am so frustrated over it so any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance

I had the same issue with my son's old school.  I went through the chain of command: teacher, vice-principal, principal.  None of them did much of anything except for in school suspension for the other kid, and blamed m son for him being bullied.  I went to the Board of Superintendent of the school district and quoted a few penal codes, voila!!  Problem solved.  
The following year, I transferred my son to a local private school, it's a struggle but it's worth the sacrifice.

Hi,

I run a company that raises self esteem in children as well as help children deal with bullys . If you went to the principle and they do nothing, I would try these things below.

Write a letter to the Principal of the school.  Write a letter to the Principal after each incident of  harassment. (Keep a copy in your file)

Write letters to School Board Members.  Write letters to Board members separately and after each incident of harassment.  (Keep a copy in your file)

Write a letter to the Superintendent.  Write a letter to the Superintendent after each incident of harassment.  (Keep a copy in your file)

Go to the School Board meeting and speak out.  It is not just your child that you are thinking about, but also all the other children who are harassed and have parents who will not, or do not know how, to speak for them.

Write multiple letters to your State Representatives (The State Senate and House Education Committee).  Tell them what is happening in your school and how your Administrators are handling your child's case.

Write a letter to each member of the Education Committee separately and after each incident of harassment.  (See the BullyPolice.org website to see if your laws, policies or codes are listed)

Write a letter to the Editor of your local newspaper.  Do not embarrass your child with details, but write instead about your schools lack of response for harassed students in general.

If nothing else works consider going to the television stations.  Bullying can be very dangerous and taxpayers have a RIGHT to know what is going on in their local schools.  Voters also have a right to know what their candidates for the school board believe and if they will support and vote for good common sense anti bullying policies.

Bullying is such a horrible thing, and if you school doesn't have a bully policy in place you need to pressure them to do so. This will effect them even later in life.

Sincerely,
Carolyn

Take action, even if this means getting a lawyer. If the school is not doing anything to stop bullying they the school can be held liable for the damage (emotional, physical) to your child. I would look over the districts procedures on bullying and see why these steps are not being put into action.

I would definitely follow-up with the principal and ask specifically what is being done at the school to address this situation.  I am a public school teacher and there are guidelines that schools must follow when bullying incidents are reported.  The vary slightly from school district to school district, but at the minimum the incident and the action taken by the school administration must be documented.  Most schools have a "no tolerance" policy when it comes to bullying issues.

If your solution doesn't work then you need to go to the school board and raise your complaint. There should be zero tolerance for bullying!