Is it legal for my daughters school to suspend her for cutting herself?
My daughter has been cutting herself and we are seeking treatment for her. I would like to speak to her school counceler about this as some of her depression stems from our recent move and her switching schools, and I feel that having him involved could be helpful. However her school has a policy that if a child is cutting they must stay out of school until they have been in therapy for two weeks. My daughter is very academic and I feel that the stress of missing that much class time will just add to her depression. On top of that, we live in a very small town and she is terrified that other kids will find out about this. Is it legal for her school to force her to leave while she is in therapy?
We are not aware of it being illegal to make a child stay home from school because of self-injury, but if the school is private they are governed independently and can have different policies than public schools. As far as we know, being in therapy is not grounds for an expulsion. Many children are in therapy across the country for many different issues.
It should be your personal decision to tell or not tell the school counselor about the cutting. You can present the problem to him as depression and then get the guidance you and your daughter need from your own therapist. Although it might be difficult for your daughter to be out of school for a time, the most important thing is to make sure she is safe and is getting the help she needs. She does not have to talk about it to anyone at school if she does not want to. Eventually she may feel more open and may find a good friend at school whom she trusts.
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