That's a very unfortunate and frustrating situation! Ideally a school would bend over backwards to accommodate your child because it's the right thing to do. In reality, sometimes it's important to have your child's rights spelled out in formal documentation. Children with disabilities or medical diagnoses are guaranteed the same rights to education as other children, and there are protections in place to guarantee children those rights.

For example, you may want to consider asking for/advocating for something called a "504 Plan," which is a legally binding document that describes how a child with a particular disability with have equal access to education.

Practically, it can be helpful to know that some schools are hesitant to go this route because there is no money associated with "504 Plans" for schools, unlike special education, and it can require more work and responsibility for the school. Professional educators would have no problem with these added responsibilities, but less professional educators may. So, be prepared for an excuse why the school would not want to pursue a 504 plan.

It may also be helpful to find out if your district has a parent advocate program - someone who understands rules/procedures, and stands up for parents. If the district doesn't, a local community agency might. Stopping by the United Way in your county may prove helpful in finding such a community-based agency. Also, increasingly hospitals have parent advocates, pediatric psychologists, and other psychosocial/educational support personnel which may be able to guide you better as to the specifics of your districts.

Good luck with your journey!

You should be angry!  I am a teacher and a mom - and I am angry!  I apologize for the teachers who have treated you in this manner. It should never have happened.  
A child who has a medical issue or a learning issue deserves the same treatment as all other students.  In the past I have spoken to my class about why a child is out for an extended period of time or why a child needs to go to another teacher for reading or math.  But, it is not in a negative manner, it is to help the class understand differences in how we learn.  
Do you have other schooling options?  If you have experienced this for 3 years and already involved administration, I worry that it may not improve...how sad!  You and your daughter both deserve to be treated with dignity and respect and maybe you won't find it where you currently are. I will be thinking of you!

Anne
1st grade teacher and Literacy coach

Try home school through Connections Academy Online plus you get to spend more time with your kid. I love It!!!!! It so much fun to bond with them and spend more time (quality) they dont see it as school they see it as an fun activity or a game that we get to do together its our special time

I am a special education teacher. I am horrified to hear how you and your daughter have been treated at her school! To discuss a student's medical issues with the class is both unprofessional and insensitive! Forget about school policy, your child has a right to a free, appropriate public education, and school policy can't lawfully stand in the way of that!  You have a couple of options, depending on your state and school district's services. In Virginia, we offer intermittent homebound services for students with health problems that cause frequent absences. The intermittent homebound teacher should provide some instruction and coordinates assignments with the student's teachers of record.

Here is an excerpt from the Virginia Department of Education website describing homebound services in our state:

"Homebound services may be provided on a daily basis for students whose acute illnesses prevent them from attending school for a short period of time. Some students have chronic illnesses that may �flare up� necessitating shorter, more frequent periods of time away from school. For these students, it is appropriate for the physician or licensed clinical psychologist to request intermittent homebound services. These are services that would start and stop, based on pre-defined triggers. Examples of students who may require intermittent homebound services are those with cancer, while they are receiving chemotherapy or are immune suppressed; or, children with sickle cell disease who are in �crisis.� The homebound instructional services for these students should be individualized to minimize the interruption of instruction.
Based on the premise that instruction should take place in the school setting to the fullest extent possible, school divisions are encouraged to provide part-time homebound instruction for students who can tolerate less than 5 full days in the classroom setting. This may be an excellent transition strategy for students who have been on extended homebound or who lack the endurance for a whole day in the school setting.
Homebound instruction may be provided to eligible students utilizing online technology. In order to be eligible for reimbursement, the program content must be verified by the homebound instruction coordinator and must be taught by licensed teachers. Individual student instruction shall be monitored by a teacher licensed by the Virginia Board of Education or by the homebound instruction coordinator, as long as the coordinator holds a
license to teach in Virginia. Should an online provider be used to deliver instruction, the school pacing guidelines must be followed.  
If the home setting is not deemed appropriate for instruction and the student�s condition allows, homebound instruction may take place at the school, public library, or other agreed upon location." The entire document can be found at: http://www.doe.virginia.gov/instruction/homebound/homebound_instructional_services.pdf

You also have the option to request an evaluation from special education services at your school for other health impairment (OHI) under IDEA (the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act), since your daughter's health problems impact her education because of frequent, necessary absences. Read the following web page for more information:
http://nichcy.org/disability/specific/ohi
 
You will need documentation from your daughter's doctor describing her medical condition and possibly recommending intermittent homebound or other supportive services for when she becomes ill and has to miss school.

If you do not receive help for your daughters situation, write a letter to the principal (typed on paper, signed and mailed). Include everything that has happened including the fact that teachers have chosen to discuss your child's medical conditions with the class. If you still haven't received the help you need, mail the same letter to the school board. Nothing gets results like a letter to the school board!