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Bullying and teasing, Discipline and behavior challenges
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My niece is a "mean girl". She is 17 and has been raised in a good, loving home. Why is she like this?
Question asked after reading: http://www.education.com/magazine/article/what-...
> 60 days ago
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Hi there,
Your niece is lucky to have such a caring aunt, and I'm glad you asked the question. Many, many girls participate in the cliques, gossip, and emotional bullying that characterize a "mean girl." It does not mean that your niece is bad, or that she will grow up to continue this behavior. Middle and high school represent a complex social landscape that forces students to assume roles and experiment with power and social interaction. Peer pressure and a desire to be perceived as popular or to feel powerful are motivators for this type of behavior.
If your niece is a bully and it behaving in an extremely hurtful manner towards others, she should be made to understand the severity of her actions. Depression, suicide, and lastly social issues can be the result of this behavior. Consult with her school's guidance counselor to figure out how best to put a stop to her behavior before it negatively impacts others.
Once students leave high school and graduate to a college environment, their social skills will have evolved and the new and much more friendly and accepting milieu of college will show them that bullying and socially domineering behavior is not only hurtful, it is socially unacceptable.
I hope this is helpful! Good luck to you and your niece.
Your niece is lucky to have such a caring aunt, and I'm glad you asked the question. Many, many girls participate in the cliques, gossip, and emotional bullying that characterize a "mean girl." It does not mean that your niece is bad, or that she will grow up to continue this behavior. Middle and high school represent a complex social landscape that forces students to assume roles and experiment with power and social interaction. Peer pressure and a desire to be perceived as popular or to feel powerful are motivators for this type of behavior.
If your niece is a bully and it behaving in an extremely hurtful manner towards others, she should be made to understand the severity of her actions. Depression, suicide, and lastly social issues can be the result of this behavior. Consult with her school's guidance counselor to figure out how best to put a stop to her behavior before it negatively impacts others.
Once students leave high school and graduate to a college environment, their social skills will have evolved and the new and much more friendly and accepting milieu of college will show them that bullying and socially domineering behavior is not only hurtful, it is socially unacceptable.
I hope this is helpful! Good luck to you and your niece.
> 60 days ago
there may be many reason or answers. Try Causes of Bullying:
http://www.haltnow.ca/bullying/40-schoolyard-childhood/87-causes-of-bullying.html
http://www.haltnow.ca/bullying/40-schoolyard-childhood/87-causes-of-bullying.html
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> 60 days ago
It's great that you are such a caring Aunt and take interest in your niece. You mention that she was raised in a good, loving home and then it seems that outside of the home, she receives lots of love from extended family, such as yourself.
By reading your question, I feel like you are just seeking opinions of others to see if you can identify one with your niece's behavior.
You mention that she is 17 and a "mean girl" without specifics, so is it possible that she is just rebelling a little bit?
I've linked an article that I thought you might find interesting.
Hope this helps and I wish the best to you and your family!
By reading your question, I feel like you are just seeking opinions of others to see if you can identify one with your niece's behavior.
You mention that she is 17 and a "mean girl" without specifics, so is it possible that she is just rebelling a little bit?
I've linked an article that I thought you might find interesting.
Hope this helps and I wish the best to you and your family!
> 60 days ago
She is angry. Someone needs to understand what is feeding her behavior. Anger is usually rooted in hurt. Good parents have children who perceive things in ways that hurt them....due to perception, not reality, but then one's perceptions are one's reality.
Could a school counselor or professional counselor or therapist be of help? She is hurting and hurting others so try to help professional help.
Edie
Could a school counselor or professional counselor or therapist be of help? She is hurting and hurting others so try to help professional help.
Edie
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> 60 days ago
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