chrash3
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As a parent how do you deal with your child who bullies the teacher.
My daughter is the model child at home. She does what is expected of her and I very rarely have to get on her about much. So when I go to a parent teacher conference I am floored to find out my daughter bullies the teacher. I am told she gives verbal attacks to get laughs from her peers. Needless to say I was totally ashamed of her behavior and apologised repeatedly. This behavior is certainly not how we have raised her. When I confronted her on the matter all I got from her was this "deer caught in the headlight" stir. I told her this is not acceptable and she needed to apologize to her teacher. I also took away many of her privileges until I meet with her teacher again to evaluate the situation again. Is that enough? I am now trying to figure out beyond getting laughs, why she has done this and is it happening to others. I've always tried to be attentive to her and what's going on with her and to hear this about her has left me with a lot of questions. I'm starting to feel like this person I'm raising is a total stranger to me.
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Working with my child's teacher(s), Learning issues and special needs, Bullying and teasing
> 60 days ago
What the Expert Says:
Additional Answers (2)
Your daughter is seeking atttention from others. Unfortunately, her attention-getting is negative. The consequences you have given her for her behavior are appropriate and need to include what behaviors are required for her to gain privileges and the length of time for the restrictions. I would also suggest working with the teacher to reinforce good behavior in class. A solution-focused approach involves your daughter making decisions about her behavior would make the situation better. For example, "I will be respectful to the teacher." "I will be the leader in class by being a positive role model for my peers."
Not knowing her age or grade level, I would suggest that you also speak to the counselor for some guidance on what activities would help her gain confidence and find attention from other in a positive way.
Not knowing her age or grade level, I would suggest that you also speak to the counselor for some guidance on what activities would help her gain confidence and find attention from other in a positive way.
> 60 days ago
Children need to learn from their mistakes and this is a good example. I as a kid never payed lots of attention and got not very good grades so you should take her privileges and more make her write sentences and more you are doing a good job, keep it up.
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