No, telling a 12 year old such a thing is not very helpful to say the least! On the other hand, as strange as this may sound, this father could have said this as a very sarcastic joke to his daughter, with no intentions of doing either. It really depends on how the daughter perceived the comment, if it is damaging or not.
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