Hi, I'm a sophomore male at college and I have parents who think I do not put enough time into doing schoolwork.
I recently got a girlfriend that is from my hometown, but goes to college a half-hour away last semester. My GPA for last semester was a 3.46. Before dating her, I was getting 2.7 each of the two last semesters. My parents think I see her too much at college but I get all my homework done for the week when I am with her so I just have to look at notes the night before class so I know what we are learning. I did the same thing last semester with her. I am also a lacrosse player which takes up a lot of my time as well. I get to see her Saturday after lacrosse until Sunday morning. I have replaced partying with my girlfriend and rather see her Saturday night than sit in my room while my friends go out and get drunk. They think she is a distraction for me and don't want to hear my side to the story.
If you are making a 3.46 it is difficult to argue with this grade point average. It sounds to me as if your girlfriend has been a really positive part of your academic improvement.
Perhaps your parents have others reasons for their feelings. I would ask them to share their concerns other than spending too much time together. Your grades speak for themselves. There is something else going on in all likelihood.
You are an adult and in charge of your schedule which it would appear you have under control. Spending time with a girlfriend instead of the usual college dorm life makes sense. some parents panic at the thought of a mature son who is leaving the nest and making his own way. Rea-sure your parents of your love and attention for them, and that she is not a distraction to you; just keep up your grades.
Wayne Yankus, MD, FAAP
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