Parenting teens is not easy, but can be rewarding. First lay out the house ground rules, so that she knows what is expected of her. Also, let her know what are the consequences for breaking the rules. Once there is a structure of some sort, be consistent with reinforcement of the rules/consequences. That will make communication about responsibilities easier.
Teens don't like to preached to and avoid getting speeches. One approach to talk to your daughter is to have a good conversation while watching television. Select movies that you'll watch with her and discuss issues seen in them. When she realizes that you are not judgmental towards others and actually have a good advice or two, she might open up to you. Although aloof towards parents, teens need as much parental love as when they were small children, if not more. Be patient, loving, understanding, but firm if it comes to values that you want to pass on to your daughter.
usually a mother is a daughter best friend that the same thing i say about my mother if you want to be their for her try to understand the way she feels and if she tells u something u don't like try to take it easy on her and tell her what u think and if u keep giving her advice as a mother and a best friend that u want to be than keep doing that and sooner or later your daughter will be able to trust u 100%!!! = )