We have a 10 year old girl, currently on her third and last suspension, (this one three days). She was caught on film going through backpacks in three classrooms. Totally denied until she found out it was on tape, then no remorse. She has been either kicked out or they wished they could kick her out of every school to include two preschools. Weve done the counseling thing (Im not real big on the soft spoken, talk to me, tell me, now you need to sit still and listen/participate... kind of counseling. From there they put her on meds... parents cant afford ... dr will not refill until she goes back to counseling and they refer her again. Counseling will not call back, and from previous attempts, there is a waiting list. Have to start all over... hurry up and wait, in the mean time, she is falling deeper. She is very intelligent, ADHD, has not had a mother (many girlfriends, dads), mother lives states away. Dad and another daughter three years ago, kids loved that baby girl, she dies from sids at two months six days. Since then, Dad has settled into a(nother) relationship. Two more babies aged one and two. Some months ago the two year old girl was diagnoised as autistic. Big sister is processing what this means and does not like it when her cousin tells her that "her sister is weird". I get this all effects, but this is the hand God has dealt. How do we help her stop the lying and thieving (the principal says he has never seen a thievery problem this bad) she has BIG HEART. HELP!
It sounds like this girl is really hurting. It is good that she has someone like you on her side who can find the positives about her. Continue to praise her for appropriate behavior, by drawing attention to the things that she is doing well (you mentioned she has a big heart), this will help her to want to strive to do the right thing. Continue the counseling process. If you, her therapist and her doctor feel that she needs more help than counseling can provide, you can look into day treatment programs or residential care. If you need help finding resources in your area, reach out to a hotline for referrals.
- Sara, Counselor