Boys in Middle School and High School

Even stranger, in the eyes of the parents, is the way many teenage boys today are engaged in online pornography.  The 2007 comedy movie Superbad – the most successful teen movie of 2007, with more than $120 million in box office receipts in the United States – begins with an extended dialogue between the two leading characters, teenage boys, discussing the merits of various online porn sites.  A generation ago, a similar movie might have opened with boys arguing the comparative merits of two pretty girls in the real world.  Now it’s all about porn sites in the virtual world.  The second most successful comedy movie overall in 2007 was Knocked Up.  The male lead in Knocked Up has only one occupation:  creating an online porn site.  (The most successful comedy movie in 2007 was The Simpsons Movie). 

The challenge for parents, and for their sons, is to value the real world above the virtual world.  That means, among other things, that parents must be involved in issues such as what video games their sons play, and how much time they spend playing those games.  That question is a major focus of chapter 3 of Boys Adrift.  In order to enforce those rules, you must help to create a community of like-minded parents:  that’s the emphasis of the two closing chapters of Boys Adrift.  Without that community, it’s impossible to enforce those rules.  You may have limits on playing video games in your own home, but your son will just go to his friend’s house to play, where your rules are not enforced.

It’s easy for parents to be confused on these issues.  After all, many respected people and foundations are actually pushing the virtual world on teenagers.  In one particularly egregious example, the John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation announced that they are providing $50 million to help bring video games into the classroom.  Their reasoning can be summarized this way: 

·         Many students are not motivated to learn. 

·         Many of those same students (particularly boys) love to play video games. 

·         So, if we turn learning into a video game, boys will want to learn. 

This syllogism is fallacious; but more importantly, it fails to grasp that the central challenge facing American boys in the 21^st century is precisely in learning to value the real world above the virtual world. 

Leonard Sax, MD, PhD
Executive Director, NASSPE
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