Building Family Strengths: Unity (page 2)

By — Clemson University Public Service Publishing
Updated on Dec 16, 2008


We must begin at an early age in order to instill an appreciation and love of family. When children are young they require a great deal of time for care giving. However, family members must struggle to balance the care-giving time with the fun time. Young children can develop strong family ties to extended family members and siblings which can provide a greater understanding and appreciation for quality family time. Tips for helping preschoolers develop an appreciation for family unity are:

  1. Ask questions about family history and interact with older family members.
  2. Draw, design, or create your family tree.time with each member of your family.
  3. Plan a special activity and spend one-on-one


School and other activities can begin to take a great deal of time and special care should be given to spend time with your family. It is important to spend time with all family members and to take time to talk, ask questions, and show appreciation for one another. Suggestions for increasing family unity are:

  1. Spend time with family members and have them share stories of their childhood.
  2. Spend time with your brothers and/or sisters organizing family photographs and videos.
  3. Remember family birthdays and anniversary with homemade cards and notes.


Although peers become more important during adolescent years, it is important that you make time to spend with your family. Plan a family service activity that can include your entire family, such as collecting toys for needy children during the holidays or sponsoring a roadside cleanup in your neighborhood. Physical activities, games, and sports are wonderful ways that you can spend quality time with your family.


Teenagers have as busy schedules as many adults. It is often hard to find time to fit everything into one day. Family activities may need to be planned in advanced. You might ask your parent to help you with a school project, work on your car, or help plan an activity or event. Include your younger siblings in on some of your activities; you can be an important role model in their lives.


There are never enough hours in the day to do everything! Quality family time must become a priority early in your relationship with your spouse, children, and extended family. Planning becomes the critical issue. We must learn to put what matters most to us FIRST in our priorities. It is possible to balance work and family responsibilities, but it takes planning, time management, sacrifice, and devotion.


The key to success in building family unity is planning, perseverance, and flexibility. Your relationship with the members of your family is the foundation upon which your family is built. The stronger the foundation is, the more strength you can draw from it. Remember: If you are too busy to spend time as a family, You are TOO BUSY!



Spend some family time discussing the questions listed below. Select a convenient time to do this activity. Include all family members and encourage everyone to take part in the discussion. You can place these questions on folded slips of paper and have each family member select a question to begin the discussion.

  1. Do you feel that you are an important part of the family?
  2. Is there a calm, accepting, and happy home atmosphere?
  3. Do you feel the freedom to express yourself?
  4. Do other family members show an interest in your activities?
  5. Do the other family members respect your feelings and ideas?
  6. Are your family members too busy to take time to be with you?
  7. Do your family members respect your property and privacy?
  8. Do you feel that you can depend on your family to support you in challenging times?
  9. Does your family encourage displays of affection and acceptance?
  10. When your family disagrees, do you take time to resolve the problem?

Once the family has talked about these issues, decide which areas can be strengthened and improved. Plan how you can work on these areas together and establish a time to continue this discussion later. Family unity is a lifelong process that takes work and dedication - but the rewards are endless!

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