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Children's Development Eighteen to Twenty-Four Months (page 3)

By Kristin Zolten|Nicholas Long
Center for Effective Parenting

Highlights in Social Development

Between the ages of eighteen and twenty-four months, most children like to help their parents or caretakers, and they will follow directions well. Most children this age are not, however, cooperative with other children. They may play alongside other children, but they will probably not yet play with or cooperate with other children.

Toilet Training

For toilet training to be successful, children must have voluntary control of the sphincter muscle. The sphincter muscle controls elimination of urine and feces. Voluntary control of this muscle does not usually develop in children until they are at least eighteen months of age, and more often not until they are twenty-four to twenty-eight months old.

Since no one knows the exact time children gain the control needed to begin toilet training, it is important for parents to look for and to recognize signs of readiness before they start toilet training with their children. Parents should keep in mind that starting too early can be a waste of time and may create needless stress for both parents and their children.

General Signs of Readiness

  • Age. To guarantee adequate muscle control, children should be at least eighteen months of age, probably older. They should also be able to walk well.
  • Communication. Children must have the communication skills to let someone know, either with words or gestures, that they want to go to the bathroom.
  • Desire. Children must want to learn how to use the toilet. Children often show this desire by imitating the activities of their parents, including toileting behaviors.

More Specific Signs of Readiness

  • Children ask to be changed when their diapers are soiled.
  • Children appear to know when they are about to urinate or defecate, as indicated by gestures or facial expressions, or children stop what they are doing when urination or defecation is in progress.
  • Children eliminate on a fairly regular schedule and stay dry for several hours at a time.

If children do not show readiness signs, it is best for parents to wait a while before trying to toilet train.

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