Thoughts on Changing Child Care Situations (page 3)

— Bananas Inc.
Updated on Apr 24, 2014

How Many Changes Are Too Many Changes?

While children are able to adjust and adapt to many changes in their lives, stability in their child care situations is still very much worth pursuing. Many young children spend as much or more time in child care as they do at home with their parents. If a parent changes child care fairly frequently, is never satisfied with the programs s/he selects or feels that changing programs is the only way to settle a dispute, the situation may warrant a closer evaluation.

It can be useful to talk to someone – a friend, a staff member at BANANAS, a counselor – about these constant changes. If a parent has a choice about working and feels extremely ambivalent about using child care, maybe the additional family income isn’t worth the anxiety which results from working. If the parent doesn’t know how to resolve differences with providers constructively, some assertiveness training or counseling might be a better answer than moving from program to program. Some parents need to face the fact that the “perfect” child care program isn’t just waiting out there. Give and take and minor disagreements occur in all child rearing and child caring situations. Some changes are inevitable due to family circumstances (moving, changing jobs, etc.) and some changes are made in the child’s best interest (shorter commute time, smaller group size, larger group size, etc.). However, changes for little or no reason are not beneficial to the child, the parent or the provider.


Leaving a child care situation isn’t easy no matter what your reasons are for changing care. However, with some thought and planning you can provide a smoother transition for your child. We hope this Handout has given you ideas which will lead to positive changes and new beginnings.

BANANAS has many more free Handouts to help you select child care for your child:

  • Child Care Issues For Expectant & New Parents
  • Choosing Family Child Care
  • Choosing Infant/Toddler Child Care
  • A Closer Look at Large Family Child Care Homes
  • Choosing a Child Care Center
  • Choosing A Preschool Setting
  • Subsidized Child Care
  • Parent-Created Child Care
  • Separating From Infants and Toddlers
  • Choosing Schoolage Child Care and
  • Choosing Child Care For A Child With Special Needs.

To obtain copies by mail, send one first-class postage stamp for every three Handouts. You may also want a copy of our “BANANAS’ Publications List,” which lists all of our free and low-cost publications. Send your request to BANANAS, 5232 Claremont Avenue, Oakland, CA 94618. Our Englishlanguage Handouts and many of our Spanish Handouts can also be downloaded from the BANANAS website at

In addition, BANANAS has an extensive video library with more than a dozen videos on the topic of choosing child care, including “Who’s Minding the Kids? A Parents’ Guide to Quality Child Care” and “My Kind of Place: Identifying Quality Child Care for Infants and Toddlers.” To view a full listing of our videos, check our website at, or request our “Video Lending Library List.” Videos are available for loan at our office with a $25 deposit.

BANANAS is a non-profit organization. Donations are tax-deductible and gladly accepted. We began our service as an all-volunteer organization in 1973. We currently receive funding from the State Department of Education, United Way of the Bay Area (our donor option number is 3026), private foundations and individual contributors. For $5 a year, you can be a contributing supporter of BANANAS and receive our bimonthly Newsletter. We welcome your comments on all our publications and your suggestions for new Handouts and Newsletter articles. The people we help through our services are very important to us – let us know if there are other ways we can assist you.

© 1985, BANANAS, Inc. Oakland, CA. Revised 2002.

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