Child Development Guide: Eight to Nine Years

To develop a sense of accomplishment, which centers around the ability to learn and apply skills, deal with peers, competition, self-control, and greater physical strength.
To develop and test values and beliefs, which guide present and future behaviors.

Excessive concerns about competition and performance, especially in school; extreme rebellion; teasing; whining; headaches, nervous stomach; ulcers; nervous tics; extreme procrastination; overdependence on caregivers for age-appropriate tasks, e.g., combing hair, going to the store, tying shoes, finding a restroom; social isolation; lack of friends and involvements; few interests; inappropriate relationships with "older" people, e.g., teenagers; stealing; pathological lying; bedwetting; fire-setting.

Note: Although these tasks and indicators may be present during ages 7 to 12, each may be more observable at specific times.

PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT: Eight to Nine Years
Normal Characteristics	Suggested Behaviors for Effective Parenting
Is busy and active; has frequent accidents.	Sympathize and comfort.
Makes faces, wiggles, clowns.	Don't take it seriously.
May frequently urinate as a result of anxiety.	Be tolerant; it's not deliberate.
Has good appetite; wolfs down food; belches spontaneously; may accept new foods.	Except for belching, rejoice!
Has improved health with a few short illnesses.	Rejoice again.

Physical Development for Seven to Eight Years	Physical Development for Nine to Ten Years
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INTELLECTUAL DEVELOPMENT: Eight to Nine Years
Normal Characteristics	Suggested Behaviors for Effective Parenting
Wants to know the reasons for things.	Answer questions patiently.
Often overestimates own ability; generalizes instances of failure with such statements as, "I never get anything right."	Direct child toward attempting what can be accomplished, but still provide challenges. Stress what the child has learned and not the end product.
Wants more information about pregnancy and birth; may question father's role.	Continue to be available to answer questions.

Intellectual Development for Seven to Eight Years	Intellectual Development for Nine to Ten Years
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SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT: Eight to Nine Years
Normal Characteristics	Suggested Behaviors for Effective Parenting
Demands love and understanding from mother.	Love and accept.
Makes new friends easily; works at establishing good two-way relationships; develops close friend of own sex. Considers clubs and groups important; enjoys school, doesn't like to be absent, and tends to talk more about it.	Assist with scouting or sport groups. Go to activities, such as his/her concerts. Be a part of his/her school life.
Is not interested in family table conversations; wants to finish meal in order to get to other business.	Remain understanding of child's needs and feelings.
May "peep" at each other and at parents. Tells dirty jokes, laughs, and giggles.	Do not overly focus on child's behavior. Set reasonable limits.

Social Development for Seven to Eight Years	Social Development for Nine to Ten Years
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