The Do's And Don'ts of Discipline

DO’S:

1. Do accept your child’s choices if you give options.
2. Do accept feelings, because they are valid
3. Do earn respect by being kind, firm and consistent.
4. Do enforce the rules you set.
5. Do earn affection by showing your love.
6. Do act fast when it's necessary; but Do think about it later.
7. Do realize there are reasons why children can't or won't express why they did something.
8. Do give children responsibility. If you give them a job and they fail, don't take it away from them. Give them another chance to learn how to do it right.
9. Do learn what is reasonable to expect from a child.
10. Do remember that children learn more from what they see than what they are told.

DONT'S:

1. Don't give children a choice unless you are willing to accept their decision.
2. Don't deny a child's feelings.
3. Don't demand respect.
4. Don't demand a behavior you can't or won't intend to enforce.
5. Don't try to buy a child's affection.
6. Don't be afraid to make a mistake.
7. Don't always expect children to tell you why they did something.
8. Don't teach children to be responsible by taking responsibility away from them.
9. Don't expect children to behave like adults.
10. Don’t forget that as a parent, you must model self-discipline in order for your child to take you seriously.

If a child does not learn from the consequences, then it’s just punishment.

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