Handling A “Choosy” Eater

“Choosy” eating is a child-size step toward growing up and showing independence.

In fact, what seems like a challenge to you may be an early step toward making food choices. A child’s “No” doesn’t always mean no. What seems “choosy” may just be your child’s awkward first steps in learning to make decisions.

What appears to be “choosy” eating may instead be a smaller appetite.

Preschool-age children grow and develop at a slower rate than toddlers do. If left alone, most children become hearty eaters again when their body’s growth pattern requires more food for energy.

The best advice for you: relax and be patient!

Learn how to handle eating challenges and how to avoid conflict. That way, your child won’t learn to use food as a way to exert control.

Ten Effective Ways To Handle a “Choosy” Eater

1. Treat food jags casually since food jags don’t last long anyway.
2. Consider what a child eats over several days not just at each meal. Most kids eat more food variety than a parent thinks.
3. Trust your child’s appetite rather than force a child to eat everything on the plate. Forcing a child to eat more encourages overeating.
4. Set reasonable time limits for the start and end of a meal then remove the plate quietly. What’s reasonable depends on each child.
5. Stay positive and avoid criticizing or calling any child a “picky eater.” Children believe what you say!
6. Serve food plain, and respect the “no foods touching” rule if that’s important to your child. This will pass.
7. Avoid being a short-order cook by offering the same food for the whole family. Plan at least one food everyone will eat.
8. Substitute a similar food - if a child doesn’t like a certain food, maybe sweet potatoes, instead offer squash.
9. Provide just two or three choices not a huge array of food. Then let your child decide.
10. Focus on your child’s positive eating behavior not on the food.

Nibbles for Health Nutrition Newsletter for Parents of Young Children, USDA, Food and Nutrition Service