Keys to Helping Socially Anxious Teenagers

What treatment approach is most effective for social anxiety disorder?

The scientific literature supports the use of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) for treating social anxiety disorder. CBT uses practical and logical strategies directed at changing the factors that maintain anxiety such as negative thoughts or expectations, physical symptoms, avoidance, and the reactions and responses of adults to an anxious child. Children learn to think more realistically about fears and to confront the feared social situations. Training in social skills such as initiating conversations, inviting others to get together, and being assertive are also incorporated into treatment.

What can schools do to assist socially anxious teenagers?

• Provide Education and Training for school personnel that would increase awareness of anxiety disorders, identify specific criteria to determine need for intervention, recognize anxiety as a legitimate disorder rather than willful misbehavior, teach appropriate skills to manage anxiety in school and educate parents of children with anxiety about the problem.

• Establish Helping Partnerships between parents and school personnel. It is critical that both be involved so that progress made in one place is not undone by the other. A school counselor can organize all involved individuals.

• Maintain a Physically and Emotionally Supportive Environment for anxious teenagers at school by: 1) being inclusive in class activities and ensuring opportunities for shy children to participate, 2) using structured classroom activities or assigning partners so that shy children are not left out, 3) assigning a classroom buddy who provides support and assistance, 4) providing structured social activities and assisting the initiation of social interactions, and 5) rewarding efforts to initiate social interaction.

• Define Specific Problem-Focused Interventions that help address specific goals and increase confidence. For example, a student might be encouraged to ask two questions in class, ask two kids what they did over the weekend or start a conversation in the cafeteria about the food.

• Make Appropriate and Timely Referrals to Mental Health Professionals.

How can parents help to manage social anxiety in their children?

1. Reward Brave, Nonanxious Behavior: Provide praise and attention and small rewards.
2. Prevent Avoidance: Refuse to engage in your child's behaviors that allow him/her to avoid the situations s/he fears. For example, refrain from ordering your child's food, speaking for your child in stores, making phone calls for your child, or taking care of other things that your child is avoiding due to social anxiety. Gradually encourage your child to handle social tasks on his/her own to foster more independence and confidence.
3. Prompt Your Child to Cope Constructively: Encourage your child to come up with his/her own solutions, Help your child to brainstorm ways to handle the anxiety and to independently decide how to cope more constructively. Prompt your child to use the cognitive and behavioral skills being learned in treatment.
4. Limit Reassurance: Anxious children will constantly ask for reassurance that things will turn out okay or that they will be alright. This prevents them from learning how to cope with anxiety on their own and maintains the belief that they are unable to do so.
5. Help Your Child to Use a Problem Solving Approach:
   • 1) Summarize what your child has said,
   • 2) Help your child brainstorm possible ways in which the anxiety may be reduced,
   • 3) Make sure not to take over the task for your child or tell him/her what to do,
   • 4) Go through each idea that the child has generated and ask questions such as, "What do you think would happen if you did this? Do you think that would help to reduce your anxiety in the long-run? What would be the worst that would happen? What is the likelihood that it would happen?"
   • 5) Praise your child for discussing possible solutions and outcomes,
   • 6) Prompt your child to select the strategy that allows him/her to approach feared situations rather than avoid them and is most likely to have a positive outcome.

References and Related Books

Report of the Surgeon General on Mental Health

Worried No More: Help and Hope for Anxious Children
by Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D. Lighthouse Press, Inc. 2002

Helping Your Anxious Child: A Step-by-Step Guide for Parents
by Ronald Rapee, Ph.D., Susan H. Spence, Ph.D., Vanessa Cobham, Ph.D.
and Ann Wignall
M.Psych. New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 2000

Keys to Parenting Your Anxious Child
by Katharine Manassis
M.D. Barron's Educational Series, Inc. 1996

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