Potty Training Tips
Q: Our daughter wakes up from naps with a dry diaper and is able to go a couple of hours without wetting herself, but she does not appear to be interested in potty training. What are some tips to help ease into potty training and make it a good experience for her?
A: Beginning to exercise some control over bodily functions can be a big confidence booster and source of much pride to a small child. You want to nurture this budding independence and support your daughter’s developing mastery. You also want to make the “tools of the trade” very available to her, but let her make the ultimate decisions about timing their use.
Open up the topic of toileting. One of the odd things about our grownup toilet habits is that we tend to be quiet, even secretive about our own bodily functions—we say nothing when we feel the urge to pee or poop, but go off silently, close the door, and come out again afterward. No word about how we knew it was time, how it felt to let our bodies do what they were meant to do, no delight or interest in the whole process. So you might begin by creating more openness around your own elimination process—let everyone know when you feel you have to “go,” sigh with pleasure when you’re done on the toilet, invite your child’s company while you are there.
Let your child be the expert. Instead of knowing all about toileting, jump up and down when you have to pee, and ask your daughter what you should do. See if you being the one who doesn’t know what to do lets her laugh and be the expert. “Where shall I go?” then when she shows you, “What shall I do here?” Sit on the toilet with your pants on and ask, “Like this?” Let her help you figure out every little step. Any time you put a child in the expert’s position, it allows her to think differently about herself, and to gather confidence.
Use Playlistening around toileting. If your child is anxious about using the toilet you can pretend that you feel the need to go to the toilet but that you are afraid to do so. This may help your child laugh and release her own stress around this issue. During this play, allow your child to insist that you use the toilet, then leap away in fear as soon as your bottom touches the seat. Say “Oh no! I touched it! Help!” as you hide behind your child. If this gets laughter going, go with it. Play around with the issue until you find the piece of it that lets your child really laugh hard. Children release a lot of stress, anxiety and confusion through laughter, which then allows them to more forward with developmental milestones.
Reprinted with the permission of Hand in Hand Parenting. © 1997-2011 Hand in Hand
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