Sleepovers and Sleep-Away Camp
Why does my child become anxious about sleepovers or going to camp?
Anxiety is a normal feeling for children about to start sleepovers or leave for camp, whether it will be the first time or even if they have done these things several times before. This uneasiness or apprehension can occur for many reasons. For the majority of children, it is a mingling of excitement and a little fear of the unknown. These children usually are easily reassured and attend a sleepover or enter camp with minimal upset. For other children, the "fear factor" is larger than the excitement, and tends to take on a life of its own. In this situation, the child could be questioning everything about the upcoming separation experience: "What if I get sick?" What if no one likes me?" "What if the (other parents) counselors are mean?" "What if something happens to you (Mom and Dad) while I'm gone?"
What does it feel like?
Some children experience physical symptoms when anxious including butterflies, cold or clammy hands, headaches, nausea, being hot or cold, or feeling faint. Others report feeling like they want to cry and hide. The thoughts that accompany anxiety tend to center around what can go wrong, which leads the child to worry more and potentially feel more physical symptoms.
What Can I Do As A Parent?
The Practical First Steps:
- Allow your child to express his or her concerns, and answer the "What if" questions in a calm, coping-focused manner: "This is your friend who wants you to sleepover. You like each other." "You've made friends at school, so I'm sure the camp will help with meeting friends while there." "The counselors are chosen because of their good work with kids." "The camp people work with hundreds of kids each year. They know exactly what to do and also how to get in touch with us if you need us." Make sure your child is informed about the camp and its activities.
- Focus your child on the camp activities he or she enjoys, such as swimming or baseball.
- Attend any sessions with your child offered by the camp in your local area.
- Engage your child in the fun aspects of preparing for camp such as shopping for new clothes and picking out camp gear.
- Make appropriate communication easy on your child. Pack pre-addressed, stamped envelopes for your child to mail letters to you and others, such as grandparents and friends.
- Help your child rehearse. Children can practice being away from home by sleeping over at the homes of friends and relatives.
Reprinted with the permission of the NYU Child Study Center. © NYU Child Study Center.
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