Sleepwetting in the Child Care Setting

How do I manage it?

Things that will not help

Historically, management of sleepwetting has emphasized punishment, humiliation and other disciplinary techniques. Today it is understood that sleepwetting is best dealt with through love, understanding and positive support. Criticizing, shaming, comparing, punishing, threatening, name-calling or spanking will only increase the stress between you and the child.

Things that you can do to help

Protect the bed. Reduce some of the stress by eliminating the problem of wet, soggy mattresses and/or sheets. Disposable underpads are convenient – some will cover most of the bed. Try waterproof mattress protectors or double sheeting with a rubber sheet between layers to ease changes of bedding.

Arrange for a physical check-up to rule out any physical problem.

Exercise the bladder. Understand that the bladder is a muscle, and like any other muscle it works better if it is exercised. One exercise is to have the child hold his/her urine to the count of 10 before releasing it. Then count to 20, then 30, etc. Have the child interrupt the stream and start again, which increases control of the outer sphincter muscle. Increase the child’s awareness of signals from the bladder contractions.

Decide whether to restrict or not restrict liquids. This issue is still being debated. Some physicians feel that restriction of liquids during the day is not necessary; others feel that restriction of liquids during the evening is necessary. Discuss this with the child’s doctor.

Communicate with the child. Listen to the child’s comments and thoughts on her/his struggle with sleepwetting. Be supportive and positive and look for opportunities to encourage, motivate and praise. Include the child in discussions. She/he needs to be involved in the solution. Sit down with the child and develop a mutual plan. Sometimes it is effective to write “story” together about the issue, a process which can be rewarding for both of you. Keep the story short and in the present tense. It should involve the current conflict and a resolution for that conflict. It is also important that the resolution be workable and agreed upon by both of you. The story can then be read by the child and/ or someone the child asks. When the situation is resolved in the story, the child may be able to follow the story and resolve his or her own situation. This technique can be used for other situations as well, such as separation anxieties.

Try to reduce the reminders you give the child to use the toilet throughout the day. Reminders not only stress the child, they also stress you. Remember stress and pressure will cause you and the child to be more anxious, and anxiety can cause frequent urination. Children grow at their own pace. Some develop bladder control early, and some later. Some children sleep very heavily and are not aware of bodily messages.

Provide opportunities for achievement. If there is an area where the child is capable and has shown skill, acknowledge the accomplishment and provide more opportunities where you know the child can succeed. The child who experiences competency in some areas can expand his or her sense of competency to other areas.

Help the child make a personal schedule or weekly calendar to help keep track of dry or wet sleeps. This actually encourages the child to take personal responsibility for his or her own actions. Remember, this works when it is agreed upon by both of you. Be sure the child is capable, respected and encouraged to keep her/his schedule as private or public as decided. Help the child develop a system as a reminder to periodically use the toilet. A special necklace or watch can be helpful.