Parenting Solutions: Bragging
Acts like a know-it-all, brags and boasts, always talks about his accomplishments, compares possessions and achievements to others', fails to recognize that boasting is a turnoff
The Change to Parent For
Your child recognizes when it's appropriate (and not) to brag, tunes into how people respond to boasting, tones down the need for one-upmanship, and develops authentic self-esteem.
"I'm so pretty, Mommy, I'm going to be Miss America." "I knew that when I was five." "Get real. I'm the one here with the smarts."
When kids are little, we may think it's cute when they brag about their accomplishments and volunteer all the answers, but beware. If not put in their place, the younger bragger can turn into an older know-it-all, which is anything but becoming (not to mention very unpopular to all those poor souls on the receiving end). Don't get me wrong: I'm not debating your child's intelligence, beauty, talent, or skills, nor am I doubting your pride in your offspring. Your child could well be a budding Einstein, a young Wayne Gretsky, a future Miss America, a potential Itzhak Perlman, or even the next Picasso. He may well deserve recognition and acknowledgment for his strengths.
But this issue has nothing to do with your child's gifts and talents. Instead, it's all about his preoccupation with making sure everyone knows he's good or even better than the other kids, which can usually be quite tactless and a big turnoff. Believe me: no teacher, coach, scout leader, or other child's parent appreciates a kid who always boasts. What peer wants to be around another kid who always boasts and makes him feel inferior? Besides, the best self-esteem is internalized: the child must gain a sense of pride that he accomplished something for the joy of doing it, and it did it on his own; he does not have to share it with the rest of the world. So here are solutions for taming your child's "Look at me!" ways and helping him learn humility, graciousness, and modesty, which will go a long way toward making him a better as well as happier person.
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