Good Communication Leads to Mutual Trust
‘Because I Said So.’ New ways to communicate effectively with your first grader.
What You Need To Know
Good communication with your child will develop mutual trust, encourage positive behavior, and reduce conflict in the home. Ineffective communication can lead to frustration in your first grader and family stress.
Here are some parenting strategies which may cause poor communication:
- Your child notices you doing something you’ve told them not to do.
- Your child breaks rules without consequence.
- You don’t explain your decisions.
- You give too many or too few instructions.
- You pick fault, but never praise.
- You never admit being wrong.
- You use silence to show disapproval.
How You Can Help
- Explain your decisions. Don’t be tempted to say, “Because I said so.”
- Respect. Shouting at children only teaches them aggression. Speak to your child the way you’d like them to speak to you.
- Talk with, not to. Allow your child to respond.
- Negotiate occasionally. A little give and take can be useful for learning compromise.
- Be specific. Don’t assume your child will interpret things the way you do.
- Do things together. And talk with your child while you do.
- Encourage. If your child finishes a science project on time, or cleans the table after cooking, praise them. Praise will encourage children to please you in other areas. It’s also important to encourage effort, as well as rewarding jobs well done.
- Expect setbacks. These are part of the process, but deal with them as soon as they occur. Talk about what you don’t like about your child’s behavior.
First graders who communicate effectively with their parents feel more secure and confident. They will grow up to deal positively with authority and avoid unsafe behavior such as alcohol and drug use.
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